It’s that time of the year again- no, not Friday 13th- it’s Valentine’s Day! (Tomorrow, but hey I’m being pro-active.)
Me and R are off to somewhere remote to forget about other people and do lots of walking and spending time with nature.
I’m not someone who’s very soppy. In fact, this is the first year I’ve spent V-Day with someone and it’s very strange. Normally I just spend the day keeping to myself and binge watching crap films. Or I get out and do a little shopping, but this year I’m actually getting the chance to do something romantic. And it feels pretty weird.
I’m very affectionate with my partner, and I certainly go silly when I talk about him, but in general I’m not the sort of person you can imagine buying a soppy card. In fact, I’ve done all of the good girlfriend things… I even bought him a teddy-bear.
As someone who used to be perpetually single, I’m being careful about mentioning tomorrow and certainly won’t be posting anything too stupid on social media… which isn’t that much of a stretch for me as I’m pretty much non-existent on social media in the first place.
Take from Valentine’s Day the things that you enjoy, the things that make you feel good, and leave behind the crap that doesn’t. I know that it’s hard to be alone on days like tomorrow, but it’s 24 hours. Once they’re done you don’t have to think about it for another year. Situations can change, this time next year your friends could be single and you could be blissfully coupled.
Holidays mark the changes in the year, they’re spokes on the wheel of time. They’ll come and go and come back again. Use them as an excuse to reflect on yourself and your life- but in a positive way. You never know what’s just around the corner.
It annoys me when being in a relationship is touted as an ultimate goal. This seems to be something that women especially are fed from a young age. Relationships are not the answer to everything, they’re hard work.
If you have problems then meeting ‘the love of your life’ isn’t going to fix them. You need to fix them, you need to work on and love yourself before you can properly function in a healthy relationship. I don’t claim to be an expert; but I have a lot of experience of both having lots of problems and being a hopeless romantic.
Use tomorrow as an excuse to love yourself and the people in your life- whether you’re in a romantic relationship with them or not; and if you’re Pagan, why not forget V-Day and celebrate Lupercalia this Sunday?
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’til next time,