I am a feminist.
I think there are a lot of misconceptions about feminism and what it is, it’s quite a powerful word with a lot of negative connotations. Essentially, you are a feminist if you believe that women should be treated as equals to men in all areas of life… it’s not about hating men, or thinking that we’re better than them. It’s about equality.
Women are bombarded with ideas of how we should look and behave. I am so sick of having to put out box after box of women’s magazines every Tuesday morning at work and seeing the ridiculous articles and insipid lifestyles promoted by them.
We are more than our weight and the number of people we have had sex with. We are more than ensnaring a man, pumping out children and looking pretty. We’re supposed to live in the twenty first century; a modern society, yet we’re still stuck in the past when it comes to how we view women.
Don’t get me wrong, men face pressure from society too; they’re supposed to sleep with lots of women, be flippant about relationships, be physically strong and not show sadness. However, I want to focus on women for the moment- I’ll get around to men sometime soon.
I recently read a list on the internet where a group of men criticised women’s ‘fashion mistakes’. I was fucking appalled. It’s not often that I really throw the f-word about on here (or maybe it is… I don’t remember) but I’m so angry about it that I might actually say it again… I was absolutely, fucking appalled.
I was appalled that in this day and age a bunch of ignorant, self obsessed, narrow minded, chauvinist pigs could sit down and have the gall to say what they said.
Now, there are probably a lot of articles on the internet where men express their opinions on what they do and don’t like to see in a woman (physically), however this one used disgusting language, insulting every common fashion or make-up choice and even going as far as to say that women who are over-weight should put their time and effort into losing weight and not dressing nicely. The author said that he found it ‘disgusting’ when he saw an over-weight woman spend a lot of time on her appearance.
This article stirred up a lot of things that I have been thinking about recently; I can’t even form an educated response to it.
All I want to say is that I am disgusted and disappointed… and, you know something, misogynist morons of the internet? If a woman wants to get a piercing, she can. If she wants to wear red lipstick, she can. If she wants to spend her entire life in a tracksuit, she can. If she wants to spend an hour putting her make-up on, she can. If you feel that it’s ‘such a loss’ to see a woman with short hair then why don’t you grow your hair long and put in the hours of maintenance that it takes to keep it looking so nice?
There is a fundamental thing that you don’t seem to understand; if a woman does a particular thing with her appearance then she’s doing it for her (or at least, if we lived in a perfect world then she would be), she’s not asking for your opinion, or permission or approval.
I’m not trying to say that you can’t have an opinion of what does and does not attract you, physically, to a woman. That’s fine and normal- but when it’s worded and presented in a negative, offensive way using vile language (example: ‘women who wear red lipstick look like fucking clowns.’) it is NOT OKAY.
So crawl back into your darkened bedrooms, shut your mouths, learn some manners and respect and get the hell off the internet.
’til next time,